Improve Your Image, Confidence, and Self-Esteem

Your life is important so as you. This is the fundamental acceptance and the reminder that you need to have every day and quite frequently. Add it to your daily meditation practice. Loving ourselves is vital to keep our soul at peace and harmony. Sow seeds of fruits and you will bear fruits, not bushes. So weeds, and you will get weeds. Do something positive each day and then look at yourself in your feelings. There you are, the happy You. So, as you sow, so shall you reap. Indeed, a positive soul is a blessed soul.

1. Review of Previous Learning

In my recent articles, Stop Your Life – Live in Moments and Live Now, Forget Past and Forget Future, we learned that we need to stop this rat run and need to ponder several times in a day that what are we striving for? Am I enjoying every moment of it? Is my life worth living? and have I learned to start living in current era, the current time and the current moments? This is so significant and so peaceful that we start loving the process rather than the end results.

Regardless of how you feel inside, always try to look like a winner. Even if you are behind, a sustained look of control and confidence can give you a mental edge that results in victory.

Diane Arbus

Hopefully, before moving further you would have applied those basic concepts and read other articles on happiness too like Money and Happiness, Stay Happy – No Matter What, Change Yourself – World will Change for You, etc.

2. What You Think About Yourself?

Ask the above question from yourself now and ponder upon it for few moments. What comes out defines your thinking about yourself. If it comes out to be like ‘I am valuable’, ‘I am significant’, ‘I have accomplished a lot’, ‘I love myself’, ‘People around me are happy when they are having me’, etc. Then this means that you have a positive self-image and positivity is ingrained in your character. Positive self-belief is the indication of having a positive outlook on life. The more positive you are about yourself and others, the more satisfied you are the core of heart.

Anyhow, the character that formulate ourselves can be categorized into the following brackets;

3. The White Character People

If you love yourself and love the humanity, then you are blessed and are having a white character. The white character people are always positive and self motivated. They care about themselves and the people around them. They are happy because they keep others happy. Wherever they go, they spread the fragrance of happiness and peace. It is all because they are having a positive self-image. The burning candle inside their heart is lightening the whole periphery wherever they go. People feel warm, happy and energized when they sit in white character people. That is the charisma!

3.1 The Beauty of White Character People

You know the most beautiful trait about the white character people? Wow, that is lovely one. You will love to know. The white character people are boundless, borderless, religionless, colorless, traditionless, and cultureless. How amazing is that. They do not judge people, nor they categorize people into castes, customs, traits, traditions, religions, colors, nothing. They do not differentiate among humans. There is the key to love humanity. They know it, and the people around them know it. They share the neutrality, they share the morality, the share the beauty of their eyes, and the warmth of their heart.

4. The Dark Character People

If your answer comes out to be ‘I refrain from having a company’, ‘I don’t like what I am’, ‘I dislike the world and the people in it’, ‘I am tired of hard work as I am having little accomplishment and no appreciation’, ‘I am fed up with the relationship’, ‘people come and go, nothing lasts’, ‘I was not loveable to parents’, ‘people don’t respect me’, ‘I care alot but in return I have to face criticim’, etc. Then this means you are not having wonderful time with yourself and in this world.

4.1 The Depressed Soul and the Lonely Friend

You character is dark, and getting darker with each passing day. You might be having a negative self-image. Your heart is drowning in the ocean of evil. You are getting directionless and having no idea where to go, and from whom shall I seek shelter. Disappoints are everywhere haunting you. The depressed soul, the pity friend, and the lonely one. My friend, yes, my friend, you need not to worry about yourself now. I am here to help you. Not only help you but to improve you!

How are we you going to change it, I will discuss it in upcoming articles. Anyhow, the dark character people are having negative self-image and are uncomfortable within their body and the society. They are lazy to accomplish something big in their life and their self-esteem is so low that they consider themselves nothing at all. Such personalities spread disappointment and discouragements. As they are degraded by themselves, they try to demotivate others too.

5. The ‘If’ Guys and the Self-Worth

Many people are just wishing and have developed guilt about it throughout their lives. If I had enough money, if I had a trustable relationship, if I had won a lottery, if I were skilled, more talented, etc. If this and then, if this than that. Such people are having very poor self-image as they have accepted themselves as losers. Being loser is not a problem, but acceptance of being a loser is. Negative things, negative habits, negative affiliations should never be accepted. Do not affiliate negativity with yourself.

6. Begin Now with a New Faith

Lastly, you came to know the importance of having a positive self-image. Everyone has a self-image. Problem is not with the self-image, but having a positive self-image does matter. If you are having a positive self-image, then you must develop it further. And if you are trapped in negative self-image then you must develop faith in yourself, trust your capabilities and love the world around.

7. Try to Listen to the Inner Voice

If you want to be great in life then you have to start from now, from where ever you are and from whatever you have. You have to start now. You have to have complete faith in yourself and the power to change your life from now onwards. In previous article World will Change if You Change Yourself, I discussed the importance of self-change.

8. Your Thinking Matters

If you think you are trustworthy, then you are. If you think you are blessed, then you are. If you think you are happy, then you really are. Listen to your inner voice that dictates your character and develop your self-image. Changing the inner voice is like changing the programming of your character. Reconditioning our mind is very easy provided we persistently endorse the positive inner voice.

The inner speech, your thoughts, can cause you to be rich or poor, loved or unloved, happy or unhappy, attractive or unattractive, powerful or weak.

Ralph Charell

9. Happiness and the Self-image

Happiness is linked with the self-image. It is not linked with the material world, for instance, how much and how expensive materials you possess. If your inside is weak, if your soul is empty, then the world cannot fulfil it with happiness and prosperity. Our inner core is developed by our self-image. And self-image is built by our inner voices. Our inner voices are the codes of the human behavior. All the success and failure are triggered by our self-image and the perception about ourselves.

Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.

Norman Vincent Peale

10. Performing and the Underperforming Self

Let’s examine two individuals having similarity like having same age, same education levels, read through same institutions, having equal skill levels and if you evaluate their performances, are they similar? Certainly not. The one with positive self-image will be always outperforming the individual whose self-image is worn out and terrible. Our performance in life is the blueprint of how much successful we might be based on self-images we have created by our own selves.

11. The Causes of Poor Self-Image

There are hundreds of factors influencing individual’s self-image. Zig Ziglar, a motivational speaker, has enlisted two primary causes of poor self-image.

11.1 Living in the Negative Society

If you are consistently living in a negative society and the people around you are having negative image of life and are underperforming, then a time will come that you will be like them or one of them, no matter how positive and optimistic you are. Positivity can be killed by pessimist, but the negativity cannot be killed by the optimist.

If you inform me about your friends’ circle and their attitude towards life, then I and anyone can definitely deduce about your personality. Thus, living in the negative circles are inculcating the negativity in your character. Shun people with dark personalities. Either sit alone or sit in the positive and the developing environments.

11.2 Failure in a Task is not the Failure of Life

Everyone fails. Fails to achieve good grades, fails to get high ranks, fails to maintain a happy relationship, fails to get into heavy paid jobs, fails to run a successful business. Failure is common and everywhere, and it is neither a mistake nor a crime. But linking instant failure at one task with the ultimate failure of the the life is a blunder. Failure in task does not mean that you will underperform in the life too. Life is too big and fantastic. A small set back do not define you.

12. Experience Life – Misconceptions about the Success

Our misconceptions are built by the society we live in. We create our own definitions of success and the failure, and become unhappy when we underperform. But that are all self-created unhappiness. How could self-created concepts be such powerful that it starts controlling our lives and makes our life worse by disappointing us in case of underachievement. Hence you have to get out of such delusional success.

Are we in this world for defining success and failure? Certainly not. Success is relative and it is never ending journey. But our life journey is limited. We are here to live it and experience it. Life is a Game – And We all are Players. Life is only a game. Nothing less, nothing more. We have to play it and live it all alone and happily.

Living happily is a choice, living bitterly is also a choice that we make by our ownselves about our ownselves. Why don’t we Change our Lives and the world around us will change automatically.

Confidence is not, ‘They’ll like me.’ Confidence is, ‘I’ll be fine if they don’t.’

Christina Grimmie

13. The Right Place to Live

Find the right place to live. Often people ask me about great places to live, they ask about locality, the facilities, residence standard, nearby educational institutions, hospitals, mosques, playgrounds, the security system, etc. But I suggest them that the most important element to look before selecting a residence is to look for your neighbor and the society in which you and your kids will live.

That is much more important than the infrastructures and facilities. We are not in this world to construct big houses, but it should be our fundamental goal to be at peace, happy and contented about whomever we are, and whatever we have, we have enough.

14. Be Yourself

Let me conclude this talk of the day. Have a happy and memorable life. Great Day!

15. Conclusion

1. Appreciate the creation of nature (Allah) by accepting that you are unique and important. World cannot define or measure you and your success.
2. Love yourself, no matter what.
3. Temporary failure does not define your life failure.
4. Be yourself and appreciate your very existence and the Creator.
5. Do not try to be perfect. Try to be human and live like humans.
6. Live life to experience it. Not to be successful or failure.
7. Find the right place to live where there are happy, caring and developing people.
8. Know yourself.
9. Say positive things about yourself.
10. Stop comparing yourself with others.
11. Celebrate your success.
12. Ask people what they like about you.
13. Focus on positive relationship.
14. Learn something new.

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