World is changing, people are changing, circumstances are changing, everything is changing itself quite rapidly these days. But here is my boy or my girl who is worried about the changing world and the consistent self i.e. hate change and wanna stick around with the old habits. Such drastic changes had a negative impact on your happiness. Things seems out of control. So you need not to worry my dear friend, this article is for you. Slowly and steadly we will be paving our ways to a happiest future.
- 1. Relationship between Money and Happiness
- 2. The Material vs. Non-material World
- 3. Stay Happy – No Matter What
- 4. Stop Your Life – Live in Moments
- 5. The Endless Race of Rats
- 6. World is the Mirror of Ownselves
- 7. Positive People Attract the Positive People
- 8. The Human Magnet
- 9. Self-Control for the Happiness
- 10. Love People to Understand Yourself
- 11. Story – Experience attracts Expectations
- 12. Takeaways
Happiness is a journey. It is not a destination at which we will arrive at. It is the path to the personal satisfaction and contentment. However, happiness is based upon many little things which we mismanage in our day to day life, resulting in the unhappiness and frustration. However, let us step back and relearn previous concepts and then we will learn more fascinating ideas.
1. Relationship between Money and Happiness
In our Happiness Series, I first discussed in ‘Money and Happiness’ that money can help you purchase anything to everything, but ‘thing’ will still be a ‘thing’, the product, the manufactured commodity. But things cannot purchase happiness for you. Money cannot buy happy moments and trustworthy friends and romantic relationships and loyal followers. Happiness is priceless.
2. The Material vs. Non-material World
So let me tell you the significant difference in two dimensions or two different states that cannot mold together i.e. the world of materials and the world of non-materials. The world of materials may also be known as the world of bodies. While the world of non-materials may be known as the world of souls.
2.1 The World of Bodies
The world of material is simple and straightforward to understand. Whatever we can hold by our 5 senses i.e. eyes, ears, hands, feet, tongue, either in taste or touch or listen, etc. Such things are formulating our material world. The whole beautiful world around us is also material. This is also known as the World of Body. Where bodies matter, your looks matter, your possession matter, and everything related to your body matters.
2.2 The World of Souls
But there is an other world much more beautiful and superb. Have you ever visited that? Certainly, daily you visit that. Daily you get happy, daily you get upset, daily you get bored, daily you are energized. What are those feeling that are making you feel such moments? The feelings of enjoyment, sadness, anger, disgust, jealousy, empathy, etc. all belong to the World of Soul. Here is where our humanity lies, if we could differentiate between good soul and the bad soul.
In the World of Souls, bodies don’t matter. Whatever you have doesn’t matter. The world around you doesn’t matter either. You must be wondering how can one neglect what is all around us. Yes, my friend, you will have to. Because souls don’t understand the matter. As souls know matter is something insignificant. Today its with you, tomorrow it will be someone’s else. So tell me, my friend, what is yours? How wonder understanding she has.
3. Stay Happy – No Matter What
In the second part, ‘Stay Happy – No Matter What’ I discussed that being happy is choice and it is a decision which we can make every day and on every bitter or hard going moment. Controlling mind or setting your daily goal to be happy can make a significant difference that you will be able to feel instantaneously. Just reminding yourself ‘I am happy’ is sometimes more than enough to be happy.
4. Stop Your Life – Live in Moments
In the third part, ‘Stop Your Life – Live in Moments’ discussion was on the reason that is causing unhappiness or the trap which is forcing us to be unhappy. And yes, that is not decisive, but our routines are badly covered up with death traps set by us. We identified that busy-ness in daily routine is the primary cause of unhappiness.
5. The Endless Race of Rats
The rat race is never ending, our will power is getting exhausted but still we wanna burn more and more internal fire to keep it earn more and get more. This race for materialistic items has indulged us bitterly. We need to pause our life several times in a day or maybe in mid or start of every activity. We need to assess its outcome, its importance, and we need to remind and compare the sacrifices we are doing while working on that specific task or assignment.
6. World is the Mirror of Ownselves
Today we will be moving ourselves step further towards greater happiness and discuss that what the world around us look like is the mirror image of what is going inside us. World is mirror of our inside. First step we wanna make towards happiness is to bring change in our own selves. Bring positivity inside yourself and you will see the world around you look beautiful and attractive to live. Refrain from changing others. That is a futile task, and disappointing too.
7. Positive People Attract the Positive People
You are a great observer. You would have seen in your long life and experience that the people who are happy are having happy people around themselves. The positive people are surrounded by people having Positive Mental Attitude. Negative minded people are surrounded by complaining, disappointed, and failed people. Have you thought for a while why is that so?
8. The Human Magnet
Human mind is so powerful tool that nature (Allah) has given us that it can achieve anything to everything. It can blow tornadoes, it can move mountains just by power of your conscious and subconscious mind. One has engendered those powers. But they exist.
Law of Attraction states that like-minded attracts each other. Positive minded people will attract positive minded people. Negativity attracts negativity. Develop a positive attitude of being happy, and keep iterating yourself that ‘I am a happy person no matter what’. After somedays you will see that world around you is changing and it is becoming happier.
Do not allow yourself to become upset by people or things. They are powerless. Poor reaction is their only power.
Singh
9. Self-Control for the Happiness
Summary of the talk is this that if we start controlling our emotions then we can control the world around us. Self-control is the most desirable and having a lot of potential, unexplored. Self-control is key to Emotional Intelligence.
If you get angry and you start shouting, then that is lack of control. It will definitely make you unhappy. If you are little hungry and you start eating, that will also make you less controllable. If you want to do something easy and resist that temptation and that urge or desire, then you can master the self-control. Happiness is slave you own. But your uncontrolled emotions dominate your happiness. Overrides your happiness. If we can control our reactions, then we can control ourselves.
Beware of no one more than yourself. We camp our worst enemies within us.
Charles Spurgeon
10. Love People to Understand Yourself
Have you ever loved someone truly? How were you feeling at that moments in life? How were your days? How was your behavior with the beloved and blessed one? Despite of all the misery in life, your feelings were on fire. World seems loveable and likeable. That experience is enough for understanding your inner self. Changing your inside directly alters your outside. Inside will be equal to outside. Nothing more, nothing less.
11. Story – Experience attracts Expectations
Once a farmer was busy in farming and Ali from far away village came and asked how are the people at this village?
Farmer asked Ali, ‘how were the people there from where you came?’
Ali responded, that the people there are too miser, cruel, and liars.
Farmer responded, yes, here the people are same, they are miser, cruel and liar too.
After few days, Ahmad came from far away village to migrate himself to a new settlement and met the same farmer and asked the same question, ‘how are the people in this town?’
The farmer asked the same question, ‘how were the people where you left?’
Ahmad replied, ‘they were kind, happy and loving’.
Farmer responded, that the people at this town are similar. They are kind, happy and loving.
Farmer was wise, he knew our past experience fulfills our future expectations. If you rely too much on bitter experiences, live bitterly, say bitter words, then the world around you will be bitter.
12. Takeaways
- Be aware about yourself and the factors that affect your happiness.
- Work happily with those tasks that you are reluctant to do. Such task will increase your self control and increase your focus on positive things.
- Learn from the situations or circumstance you are facing currently. Find out reasons why this happened and how you are going to improve it or remove it.
- If you cannot change the problem, then at least change your behavior or reaction towards it.
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